No Excuse
for Abuse
Whether you’re looking for relevant information, need a place to share your personal experiences, or simply want to open your heart and mind to help those in need, then My Narcissistic Victims Syndrome is the right place to be.
Who's the Narcissist in this Image? Can you Tell?
Abuse has many faces.
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You or someone you care about who is struggling to cope with an issue, My Narcissistic Victims Syndrome is ready to help. We are here to help countless individuals navigate and overcome challenging situations.
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Core Resources
This sites resources are presented as a collection of 3 carefully curated topics below & blog articles updated regularly As you explore each area we hope you find helpful support as you navigate a difficult journey. We hope you will find solace in what we’ve provided. If you have comments or questions, please get in touch.
1-Urgent
If your are having a rough time and need to talk to someone call:
Suicide Hotline
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Violence Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
Call or Text to 988 or 88788
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717-274-3363
1-800-273-(TALK) 8255
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2-Key Symptoms of Narcissism Victims
Narcissistic Victim Syndrome manifests in various ways, including:
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Emotional trauma: Victims experience intense feelings of shame, guilt, and worthlessness as a result of the narcissist's constant criticism and invalidation.
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Cognitive dissonance: Victims may struggle to reconcile the narcissist's charming facade with their abusive behavior, leading to confusion and inner turmoil.
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Hypervigilance: Victims are constantly on edge, anticipating the next outburst or manipulation from the narcissist.
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Isolation: Narcissists often isolate their victims from friends and family, leaving them feeling isolated and alone.
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Physical symptoms: Chronic stress and anxiety associated with NVS can manifest in physical symptoms such as headaches, insomnia, and digestive issues.
3-The Emotions
Dealing with narcissistic abuse can lead to a wide range of intense and complex emotions. These emotions often stem from the manipulation, gaslighting, and emotional exploitation that narcissistic individuals typically engage in. Here are some common feelings people experience when dealing with narcissistic abuse:​​
1. Confusion: Narcissists often distort reality, causing you to question your perceptions, memory, and sense of self. This can leave you feeling disoriented and unsure of what's true, a phenomenon known as gaslighting. 2. Self-Doubt: Narcissists tend to undermine your self-esteem, making you feel inadequate or incapable. Over time, this can erode your confidence and cause you to doubt your worth. 3. Guilt and Shame: Narcissists often use guilt as a tool for control, making you feel responsible for their behavior or the state of the relationship. This manipulation can lead to deep feelings of shame and an overwhelming sense of responsibility. 4. Isolation: Narcissistic abuse can isolate you from friends, family, or support networks, either through direct manipulation or by creating a toxic environment that makes it hard to maintain relationships. This isolation intensifies feelings of loneliness and helplessness. 5. Anger and Resentment: Constant emotional manipulation can foster deep anger and resentment. It’s common to feel furious about how you're being treated, but narcissists often invalidate or dismiss your feelings, leaving you frustrated. 6. Sadness and Hopelessness: The emotional toll of narcissistic abuse can lead to profound sadness and despair. You may feel like there is no way out or that the situation will never improve. 7. Fear and Anxiety: Narcissists can instill a constant sense of fear, often making you worry about their unpredictable reactions or future threats. Anxiety can also arise from the instability and emotional turmoil in the relationship. 8. Helplessness: Narcissists often maintain power over their victims, leading to feelings of helplessness. You may feel stuck in the relationship or unable to break free from the cycle of abuse. 9. Relief (When It Ends): If you're able to break free from a narcissistic relationship, you may experience a sense of relief. However, this relief can be mixed with grief or guilt, as the narcissist may continue to manipulate you even after the relationship ends. 10. Numbness: Over time, the emotional toll of narcissistic abuse can cause you to feel emotionally numb or disconnected from your feelings. This can be a protective mechanism that your mind adopts to cope with ongoing trauma. The emotional impact of narcissistic abuse is deep and can affect every aspect of your life. It’s important to seek support from trusted individuals or professionals if you are experiencing this type of abuse.
My Story
My name is Beverly Adams
Throughout my life, I've faced the profound challenges of "narcissistic abuse." My journey began with a mother who, due to her bipolar narcissistic tendencies, often inflicted verbal, emotional, mental, and physical pain. Her demeanor was cold and unfeeling, and her world revolved solely around her needs. As a child, I was born with physical challenges and later developed epilepsy at the age of five. I often felt that my perceived "brokenness" made me unworthy of her love. My home was a tumultuous place, where violence and unpredictability reigned. My father, too, struggled with his demons, sometimes resorting to violence and alcohol, leaving me in constant fear of who might erupt next.
In my adult life, I found myself in a marriage with another bipolar narcissist. This relationship mirrored the cruelty of my past, filled with gaslighting, derogatory remarks, and manipulation. The control and criticism were suffocating, and I often felt trapped in a cycle of emotional turmoil.
However, my journey didn't end there. For the past eight years, I've been in therapy, working diligently to heal and reclaim my sense of self-worth. While some days are still challenging, I've come to realize that the belief that I am unworthy is a lie. I am deserving of love, compassion, and a fulfilling life. This realization has set me on a path of continuous growth and healing.
I invite anyone who resonates with this story to join me on this journey of healing from narcissistic abuse. Together, we can support one another through the pain, anger, and tears. I am not a therapist, but I am a survivor who understands the depths of these struggles. My hope is to offer a compassionate hand to those who seek to heal and find peace.
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I am NOT a therapist but want to help you heal on your journey!
Your Stories
After 15 years of marriage and frustration, I learned about narcissist behavior. I had a solver type personality and deeply sympathized with my mates childhood trauma. I believed my LOVE could heal him. But my love didn't stop his abuse. Some physical but mostly mental labyrinths, him posing as a "nice guy" around friends and family but blamed me for everything wrong in his life along with his relentless paranoia. No, his trauma was NOT HIS fault. But how he treated me was his CHOICE. Will he change? One day I hope so. But I didn't have to be the punching bag until then. I don't hate him, instead, I value me.
Beth H., NY